Dream before you Do
- By nat rosasco
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- 25 Jan, 2018
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There is so much I need to do! I am moving at turbo, crazy, warp speed through my life right now. I know it’s the same for you too, right? I just received a very sweet, encouraging text saying ‘go go go…’ which is what I’ve been doing all week, and I just want to say ‘no, no, no!!’ But that’s what we do, we get up and go. We act. We move. We put one foot in front of the other tackling any action item that looks in the general direction of where we’re going.
I’m all for action. Movement and the doing of work and life is essential. But what I was just reminded of by one of my clients is that you have to dream first, then do. Why is that important? Dreaming is what helps us get clear about what we want, where we’re going, what’s important, and who we want to be. It’s the pause before the leap, the breath before the push. Without dreaming all the doing might be in the wrong direction, maybe for the wrong reasons, or maybe just busy work without any meaning.
I know you’re busy. I’m right there with you, but let’s see if we can take a quick minute to connect with what we really want before we ‘go, go, go’. Try these ideas on and let me know how it goes.
- Take a mini mindfulness break and give your brain a break with some deep breaths
- Ask yourself… what do I want? what’s my dream? what’s important?
- Think about… who do I want to be right now? what personality qualities could be turned up?
If you want to make more time for reconnecting with your dreams, let’s touch base. I’d love to hear from you!
Have a great week!
Barb
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I just love a good ending. A solid period at the end of the sentence. Here in December, I take the opportunity to pause reflect on the past year so that I can put a good crisp ending on it. When I look back, I look for accomplishments and wins that may have faded off my radar as more pressing priorities and complexities come up. I also own up to challenges and bumps in the road so I can integrate the learning. Most of all, I get really focused on what I can wrap up, leave behind, and let go of. Because, quite frankly, I don’t have the time or the energy to drag things around that really don’t have importance or value anymore.
We are often so overwhelmed by complexity, that we don’t pay attention to endings because we’re already off on the next new thing. You may think you don’t have time, but it’s essential to make time to consciously complete.
So here are some ideas for you to pause, reflect, and complete so you can launch into a new year with a lighter load.
- Look at all your to-do’s, business leads, projects, relationships, and responsibilities. Decide which of these needs to be completed or moved off your active to-do list.
- Reflect on your challenges and mistakes in the last year. Decide what you need to take away and learn from them. Then trust that you don’t need to carry anything but the learning from this.
- Look at any other areas for growth or development and maybe there are some bad habits or behaviors or beliefs that don’t serve you going forward. Write of lists of these things that you say NO to going forward.
I’ve included a great end of year reflection template for you to download and try out. I’d be interested to hear what your end of year completion ritual is.
For some of you, just getting clear on these is enough. For others, you may like a ritual to truly complete. You can write what you’re ending on paper that you throw away or throw in a fire (safely!). You can plan a hike to reflect on what you’re letting go as you walk up. Then when you get to the top, you can leave it up there. you can point towards what you’re creating. Or you can talk to a friend or coach to process through what you’re completing.
However you do this, you’ll be glad you did. You’ll feel clear and lighter as you let go.
Many blessings to you in this season of endings and new beginnings
About the experience of ending: John O’Donohue
Experience has its own secret structuring. Endings are natural. Often what alarm us as ending can in fact be the opening of a new journey – a new beginning that we could never be anticipated; one that engages forgotten parts of the heart. Due to the current overlay of therapy terminology in our language, everyone now seems to wish for “closure.” This word is unfortunate, it is not faithful to the open-ended rhythm of experience. Creatures made of clay with porous skin and porous minds are quite incapable of the hermetic sealing that the strategy of “closure” seems to imply. The word completion is a truer word. … When the person manages to trust experience and be open to it, the experience finds its own way to realization. Though such an ending may be awkward and painful, there is a sense of wholesomeness and authenticity about it. Then the heart will gradually find that this stage has run its course and the ending is substantial and true. Eventually the person emerges with a deeper sense of freedom, certainty and integration.
John O’Donohue, To Bless the Space Between Us, “Beyond Endings” p. 157